intention tapping

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thank you

hey everybody thank you for joining me

for another episode of get ready

and back with me again from Down Under

my good friend Steve Wells

internationally recognized psychologist

leadership coach and Peak Performance

consultant

good friend of mine and last time we uh

we had a chat was just when we were

starting to think you know we should do

an event together let's do a two

continent Four City Event

and then the pandemic happened

yeah yeah we are going back to those

plans you know we do we do

it will happen we we will make it happen

but for now we have zoom so welcome back

to the show Steve Wells thank you Brad

yeah it's good good to be back with a

good mind

so we attacked last uh last time we

chatted about your book which you can

see over your shoulder 100 yes

strategically placed back there

shallow marketing ploy

good on you

why not I'm 100 yes about 100 yes so you

know

and then so we did these we took our

workshop online and called tap into yes

and I did my version of EFT and you did

your capping protocol called intention

tapping or intention energy therapy

psychology and uh so

tell us about that

okay so

um it's just something I discovered and

you know when people talk about

intention they usually are thinking

about goals or affirmations or or

something like that this is different

and these intentions that I discovered

are different

primarily because they work like

um

not that affirmations don't work for

some people but they don't work for most

people the way that they promise on the

box right

um and I tried you know for years I was

doing this and and

um

I must have tried thousands and

thousands of different types of

intentions trying to change my life and

trying to make myself better and you

know it's always

it's been a lifelong

um

self-development track and I'm not

finished yet

really

thinking you just about nailed it so

that's what one guy came up today like

and I was like you guys must be just

completely your lives must be just

completely like we're like no this let's

just give you the tip

um there's always more to do it doesn't

matter who you are and I haven't met

anyone who doesn't have more to do you

know when we stop learning you know then

maybe that's when we're ready to evolve

to the next level of uh you know

whatever head off into the spirit world

or whatever yeah no most of my great

discoveries I I was reflecting on this

that most of the things I've discovered

that have been helpful have been either

at a time when I've been

um at my worst having you know a shocker

of an experience in life

or when I'm working with clients you

know when I'm running programs and I'm

working with people that that kind of

creative juices come out and so yeah

some people talk about inspiration or

desperation it's kind of a little bit

like

so enhancing tapping you know I knew

tapping uh you know we learned tapping

with Gary Craig back in 1997 Dave Dave

Lake and I'm a good mate studied with

him and you know spent 20 good years

traveling around together we simplified

EFT to an approach we call set and

that's the tapping that I use in

intention tapping so it's not EFT it's

not exactly the same as EFT we use the

same points but there are a large number

of differences and we agreed with Gary

Craig because he's like you know you

can't call this the same thing because

it's it's different

um and so with his Blessing you know we

we went often created our own thing and

um

but the intentions were in intention

tapping were discovered when I I

basically I was trying to get back into

doing some distance running and uh while

I was running I've never been a runner I

call myself a joker you know it it's a

cross between a jog and a walk right

[Laughter]

and it's more a walk than a jog so it's

a joke but you know I wanted to get the

distances up and um

and uh I had you know I had previously

done a single run of 35 kilometers when

I was young and fit and healthy and I

wanted to go a little bit further you

know anyway on this occasion I was

building up the amounts and I'd got up

to about 28 kilometers in one go which

is not so bad for Illustrated so not so

bad for an old fart and um

[Laughter]

as but I then I got this heel spur okay

because clearly I was out of alignment

you know I was injuring myself and that

anyway so I ended up with a shocking

heel spur and it just

it really um

it really affected me not just because

it was painful to move and I couldn't

get up off the couch

um

it was just like you know you know when

one bad thing happens sometimes it's

like accumulated bad things happen and

so it wasn't so much that a lot of other

bad things happened it was just that I

piled on to myself right and got down on

myself

and this is just another aspect of a

lifelong pattern that I now know that

just about everyone else on the planet

shares and um and so you know I was like

well not only am I up moving

able to move here I'm not moving forward

in my business enough I'm not forward

moving you know I'm I'm not good enough

father I'm not a good enough husband you

know and I was just

depressed Little D depressed not Big D

clinically depressed but

so I just like I'm throwing everything I

know at this problem I'm tapping I'm

doing Tre which is David baselli's

shaking technique

I'm I'm using logosynthesis created by

William Lammers I've got a lovely

gentleman from from uh Switzerland who's

our good friend

and I'm also you know reading books and

things and

I was also working with a marketing

coach Robert Middleton lovely guy

and he had done he was into non-duality

stuff and he had put together a what he

calls the unstuck process and um

it was based on a lot of non-duality

teachers including Byron Cody who I you

know I'd already studied some of her

work and so I picked up her book again

and in her book there's a line that

basically says it's not the thought

it's the attachment to the thought that

causes suffering right and I'm like yeah

of course I know this you know it's the

emotional attachment is what I prefer to

call it and so you have a thought and

because you have emotion attached to

that thought it upsets you when you do

tapping

now you can think the same thought

there's no emotion attached to the

thought any longer and so you think

think that same thought it doesn't

affect you right but in that moment

I'm like yeah that's what tapping does

it releases the emotional attachment

and then I just had the Insight what if

we could just use intention to release

the emotional attachment

and I literally just formed the specific

intention I release

all my emotional attachments to this

problem and I just felt this

ha you know like when you're doing

tapping and you have the big sigh or you

have the big yawn or you have the big

shift that people do and this was

equivalent to the biggest of shifts that

I have with tapping

oh just straight away

and so I'm like that was interesting

[Laughter]

so then I just like okay focus on

another aspect of the problem because

that's what you do with tapping right

but I wasn't using tapping at this time

I was simply using the intentions on

their own

and so I just focused on and I can't

remember the specific aspect but I just

focused on another aspect of the problem

and I said I released all my emotional

attachments to that and I'm like huh

you're just spontaneous

yeah I'm exaggerating the the movements

now but you know how it happens it just

opens up and it just moves through and

you're just like ah there's a shift and

so I just felt that

and then I'm like

that was just confusing to my conscious

mind because

never happened like that right right and

then I just focused on another aspect

and it was the same thing that aspect

just moved and then I'm like this can't

be real you're just talking yourself

into this this is not you know this this

cannot work like this

uh and then I did it again and it worked

again and I'm like

whoa and then I I started to feel my

chest and now I now know

as soon as you of course there when you

have a problem you have emotional

attachments and you have body

disturbances right

okay if you're in your mind it's only

upsetting you because there's emotional

attachments but the emotions are are

processed in the body right and so when

there's a an upsetting emotion there's a

disturbance in energy flow and so of

course again I'm like yeah

tapping restores flight as a disturbance

in the body the tapping restores that

back to flow and then again I just had

the Insight what if we could just use

intention

so I'm like okay I restore the right

energy flow to my chest and I'm like

just a big spontaneous easy deep breath

and the feeling just had shifted and I

was like whoa okay this is this is just

you know still

having the judge in mind saying you know

this this can't be working like this so

I go to my wife and I'm like okay I've

just been playing around with this thing

because now my problem is fine I'm

feeling fine about my life I'm feeling

okay I've still got that heel spur

didn't just miraculously disappear okay

it took it took a while to work that out

but it was just like the optimism

returned the you know the potential for

achieving goals returned the possibility

that I'm not so bad returned you know

and uh so I go to my wife and now she's

she's used to this right she was the

first reluctant participant of my

tapping experiments back in 1997 when I

studied Gary Craig's videos and back

then she's like oh that's ridiculous but

but she had it worked for her she got

over her needle fear that she had never

returned

um but she's like you're not going to

get me to do that again that was back

back in 1997 like you're not going to

get to give me that that stupid looking

thing again you know and um but now

she's open and so I said I've been

doing you know I just

trying out something new and it seems to

be working for me if you've got a

problem we could try it on and she's

like yeah yeah so she she focuses on a

problem and she's clearly tuned into it

and I said okay now say I released all

my emotional attachments to this problem

and she goes

like it's just a beautiful work and just

I've seen that so many times now it's

just beautiful you know it's just like

the whole problem dropping off of her

and I'm like okay that's two out of two

of us okay so lately so larger sample

size every time you know yeah double we

just double the sound

you know a sample size of n equals one

is significant if you're the one you

know but absolutely but if will it work

for anyone else is it going to work for

me you know same thing I thought when I

saw Gary Craig like he's getting those

results can I get those results and that

was the great thing about tapping it

actually worked and it worked when I

used it and then I was able to use it

you know

and we use it with you know my wife uses

it we used it with all of our kids you

know

just about everybody can get results

with it and knows who can't probably

could if we worked out how they could

anyway so next morning I'm on Skype you

know didn't even I don't even know if we

had Zoom or we went anyway I might have

been early days and uh someone Skyped

with this motor mind from over the other

side of the country

and he's like oh I got this family

situation and he's really worried about

it and worried about this issue with a

family member and I said mate just try

this simple statement and he he did it

and he's like he's like whoa that was

palpable you know that was the word he

used and um and he went and had the

thing and it the it was shifted it was

different you know it didn't have the

issue it didn't come up and so I'm like

okay that's three out of three now you

know but I have to tell you it's a bit

like when I first learned tapping for

the even now years later and I've been

doing this uh you know we've we've been

studying different types of intentions

and finding you know there's several

others that work just like these ones do

and um

created a practitioner program got

certifications you know going got people

in 11 different countries that are

certified so far and and still I'm like

this should not work

anyway so

um then I I just started

sharing it with I with colleagues and

you know then I started trying it with a

few clients and it just like it worked

and it worked it worked and it worked

and it worked and it's like okay it's a

thing it's it's real it's not just some

you know

I am so happy that I'm rich no you're

not you know it's not like that you know

it just and I'll tell you why it isn't I

now know this because most of the time

when we do an affirmation type intention

we're trying to create an attachment

yeah to something that we have an

alternative attachment to right right

and so when we try to attach to go to

that we get wrenched off to this you

know to the poverty that we're currently

experiencing or the or the whatever yeah

and so um

I think so many affirmations are based

on

what we're already attached to I'm going

to create a statement that's the

opposite of what I'm already attached to

and I'm going to hope that I'm some

somehow gonna make that leap exactly and

uh yeah so it's yeah try and try well

trying to leave the the doc without

untying the boat well yeah and and the

good thing is now now I know and I have

had the experience that you can also

release your emotional attachments to

what you think you want as well because

you're never going to lose anything good

you're only going to lose your

attachment to thinking that you need

that or that you have to have that or

that the world wants will see you as

successful if you have that or you'll

get approval or love if you have that

yeah and need is a four-letter word

thank you

I always say that it's when you think

you need something and it so often when

I'm working with someone and you know

whether it's saving a relationship or

getting a certain amount of money it's

like I need this and it's like

um let's let's dive on clearing that

need and people are really resistance

like no because they don't let it go

it's like no you're gonna actually

improve your odds of getting it because

you don't have that that false

attachment that's right that's that that

says I have to feel bad until I have it

well and and the attachment

of the neediness it's an anxiety and

it's also a feeling of being less than

of not having of whatever so

um so yeah you release that and then

you're free to go forward but then

you're like well

I don't have to or I can it's like you

know and it can be joyful exactly as

opposed to desperate you can have what

you want it's just that a lot of the

things that you think you want you don't

really you know

I did this um

on a car I know you've talked about cars

before and how you've got your posture

and then you're like this is Impractical

and and

you're a practical guy like me well we

um I had to get a new car you know and

previously I've always driven big cars

and and my wife had got this little car

you know and um you know long story but

she'd had a kind of a

a more more along the prestige line but

on the low end of that Prestige line

I'll just say you know I wasn't super

whiz-bang like our neighbors but um but

but it just didn't work for us because

the car was a lemon so she got this

little car which the the

mechanic it said just get one of these

you know it'll do everything you want

you know and so we got that and I'm like

this is a great car

it's just a great little car but it's a

little car and I'm a man you know and so

it's my wife's car you know and then and

then it's a Sheila car not a bloke I'm

going to replace my car and so I'm like

well I got to get another big car but

then part of me is gone

why don't you just get another car like

Louise's car you know you love driving

that car you know but then I'm like no

I'm a man I have to have the big car so

literally literally this is how it

played out we went down to the car yard

the two cars I kid you not were right

next to each other on the lot

well manifested yeah okay and so I I go

and sit in his big car and it's just not

feeling right

so I'm like

and then and this little voice is saying

get the little car

and I'm like I can't get the little car

on my mat so I I literally in the car I

I start tapping now when I first

discovered the intentions I wasn't using

tapping but of course of combining them

is just beautiful and wonderful and

Superior so um so now that's why I call

it intention tapping the the fundamental

process of using the intentions I coined

the term intention-based energy process

or IEP and so that's IEP you can use it

on its own without tapping and there's

some specific intentions they really

work then you can use tapping and you

can use tapping on its own and then you

can combine the two so I'm literally I'm

in this car I'm tapping on my finger

points like this with with the thumb and

I'm like I release all my emotional

attachments

to I need a big car because I'm a man

and I'm like

and I'm like

no I don't I want that little car

so then I'm like okay I release all my I

now know I do it on both sides I release

all my emotional attachments to having

that little car

because I want to clear the whole thing

right right right right so so now okay

we go for a driving little car and it

just feels perfect and it feels right

and of course

okay that's what I'm gonna buy and then

I go back and I'm going to negotiate so

you know we saved I don't know a couple

of grand on the car because I love

negotiating and everybody knows that

they whack an extra few thousand on

anyway

um and I've been happy with that car

ever since

and save me at least 20 grand

at least 20 grand so you know you want

to save yourself some money release your

emotional attachments yeah honestly

happier and wealthier

and better for the planet actually well

there's that too you know the big gas

guzzler you know whatever

nah

so you know it's good all round and um

so

the great thing about it is it's still

working for me I'm still using it I

literally was using it this morning on

some you know I have a normal family and

we have issues in our family and we have

challenges with each other occasionally

so I had a few things no no

well you you know because you know when

I came in I was I was still you know

settling

so yeah that's life you know there's

there's always more to learn there's

always more to clear there's always more

to do I think it's Robert Johnson said

you know we spend the first half of our

life

putting stuff in a bag that we carry and

then the rest of our life trying to

empty the bag well I've found something

that can empty the bag and it works

really well so when you of course you've

got to notice that you're triggered you

notice that you're you know that one of

your issues from the bag is actually

Weighing on you yeah um and in that

moment now you can say if you notice it

in your body you can literally first of

all just start tapping

as you know that can work on its own

it's very potent and then you can say I

restore the right energy flow to you

know to my shoulders or to my chest or

to my throat or to my stomach or to my

breathing and and

you know I just did a level one Workshop

finished this weekend and again people

like they're just blown away by how how

consistently that can work

and then of course you know the the

emotional attachments that are that are

connected with that I think that

it's all part of the same process and

you know mind and body are one

but sometimes we're aware of the Mind

component if you like yeah and that's

the emotional attachment and or we're

aware of what's going on with the body

that's the Body Energy disturbance yeah

in in flow or balance and so we can

restore energy flow we can restore

energy balance and you know sometimes

there's too much of I do believe you

know that aspect of the the yin and yang

thing you know you can have too much Yin

not enough Yang too much Yang long

enough Ian

too much of the wrong kind of energy you

know so yeah

so anyway yeah I think that was all from

one question

[Laughter]

so about this intention tapping you do

yeah

no that's awesome I've talked about it

for hours sure yeah and I you know it's

variety is the spice of life and that's

their that's things they're so

um many great protocols and uh and

having spent hours with you co-teaching

classes and watching you work this magic

on folks and and seen the response

um it is awesome so I'm glad to have

this opportunity to share this on the

YouTube uh channel so more people can

find out about this

um you know unless you're one of those

folks who's going to get to come who

who's at our tap into yes online and

then we'll we'll see the uh the eventual

live and in person one day yeah yeah

well I still remember one of the ladies

that was in that tapping into yes and

people still can access those recordings

I think on on Europe yes yes they're

still available for sale yeah they're

they're on my website they can get

access to them and and through yours

um and there was a lady there that I

worked with on a on a um on a childhood

trauma and she's actually working to

become one of our practitioners because

she's like dad

you're a Believer dad changed me and

that is still that issue is gone it's no

longer triggering her and hasn't you

know years later it's still not

triggering her it is years later you

know it's four years I think three four

years

uh 2020 so it's three years three years

yeah man okay time flies anyway so three

years later and he's doing this and um

yeah that problem from her childhood

shifted just from a you know a little

bit of intention tapping and of course

you know we see this with tapping all

the time the difference with these

intentions really is that when you

combine them with the tapping you can

move through aspects quickly yeah now I

say to people like okay if you say I

release all my emotional attachments to

my mother

okay and and and you can you can do that

because in this approach you're not tied

to some of the rules of EFT where you've

got to be specific and you've got to

identify the events no no we trust the

unconscious to deliver the results so

what's that what I believe is happening

is you're giving the direction to the

unconscious mind which is the wise self

the bigger part of you and

um

and that's going to carry out the the

process and your wise self is not stupid

it's wiser than you are so you think

okay I'll release all my emotional

attachments to my mother and everything

will happen in an instant well no you

couldn't you wouldn't even know yourself

if you released all of those emotional

tactics in one instant so why not feel

safe yeah your unconscious mind brings

up

the aspect which is

closest to the surface or the most

important one right now so it's like oh

yeah her look or what she said to me or

the you know what she did to me then

those events and the issues and so on

they just come out of the unconscious so

you see people and you know we train our

practitioners just basically to to

to um to get people to to use the thing

and then just keep tapping and notice

what comes next yeah and so if you're

open then the aspects you need will

emerge you don't have to go cognitively

looking for them you don't have to go

you know okay let's do a list of all the

events that have ever happened in my

life and work through them

um just start with whatever's upsetting

you right now and then release your

emotional attachments or restore the

energy flow and then keep tapping and

notice what aspect comes next and so um

the unconscious will give you the first

aspect about your mother and then you

release your most attachments of that

and then it will release the next aspect

and then you'll progressively

um release multiple emotional

attachments to do with your mother and

change your whole relationship over time

um and not that long either yeah the

layers of the onion I I I mean I've seen

this many times I had this one client I

was working with

and it was happening so we were tapping

it's like on some event

yeah this event that happened with such

and such this event that

oh no it was actually this thing okay so

this event that happened and then and

this event and no you know what this it

was just triggering this thing that

happened it's like every point or two

yeah that got cleared and a deeper thing

came up

that's right

yeah it's one of the one of the things

that that I love so much about about

tapping is that the layers of the onion

and yeah and I I had the same philosophy

of you start with where you're at and

you will the things will get revealed as

opposed to spending you know all of your

time trying to figure out what's the

most important thing of all these

possible it's like start where you're at

what needs to come up will come up your

higher self will

as if you knew cognitively you know like

you're cognitive judging mind conscious

judging mind is the smallest part of you

it can only remember or focus on five to

nine things at any one time you know and

I don't know how people ever do nine

like five is hard for me so so it's

missing so much stuff about what's going

on that your unconscious is picking up

but you know I say there's the conscious

judging mind which is like the bit of

the

um

the bit of the iceberg above the water

then there's the subconscious yeah the

subconscious is where you have all your

beliefs and your learnings and your

habits and your programs some of which

work for you and some of which are just

right

bunch of plea yes right belief systems

and um

and then so that's the part belief

beneath the water

the unconscious mind is the ocean and so

the the unconscious mind is the part of

you that's regulating your heart without

you having to think about it it's

regulating your whole body systems it

knows more than you know if you have

people in trance

um their unconscious mind will say she's

not ready to know that yet so literally

it will protect you from even being

aware of what you can't handle yet in

you know and and release that at the

time that you are ready so I find

intention tapping is one way of getting

yourself ready

um get ready we're on get ready right

way to bring that around Steve

[Laughter]

it's a beautiful thing well in that and

that's why

I people like Bessel Vandercook use

tapping is because it creates that safe

space for those things to come up that

are necessary to address

but most of the time are Untouchable

yeah and so when we're doing the tapping

we create that safe space it's like okay

now you might be ready to see this thing

and to look at this and uh and let it go

so

I um you know I've like you know he's

talking about trauma and that's of

course is you know dealing with the

really difficult stuff that people have

um have had happen in the past and and

of course

a lot of us are projecting the past into

the present and we're you know we're

seeing the present through the past and

the equivalent that I like to bring up

in when I'm working with clients is is

kind of a this equals that equivalence

you know like

I'm in a fight with my partner right now

and he she raises their voice this is

the same as when I got you know belted

when I went you know or when they had

fights in my family of origin and it

ended up becoming violent and so the

nervous system is of course doing that

you know it's like trying to protect you

and so it's reminding you that you know

loud voices equals violence but actually

here it doesn't

and so we're going to release the

release the emotional attachment to what

was in the past update the nervous

system so this is not equal to that this

is equal to this less then then we can

be present with this and we can deal

with what is here

um but yeah before you were talking

about that I was going to say I've

I've had with intention tapping I've had

a lot of things that that I thought were

my life

like I had adapted to it was just the

way I am

that just changed

and some of them have just changed

beautifully and I I now am able to do

things that I wasn't able to do before

so I you know like when I finished our

level one Workshop the other day I said

look

you know here's what I recommend get out

all your beliefs about yourself good bad

and ugly

um about life the way life is you know

and the way Etc about the future because

boy aren't everybody aren't everybody

isn't everybody scared of the future now

you know they're projecting all kinds of

things about you know the way life

should be the way things should be just

get it all out and start releasing your

emotional attachments to it you might be

pleasantly surprised that

the world is actually a lot Kinder than

you think it is you know

so you use it on yourself so you're not

only the president of intention tapping

you're also a client

uh I'm a work in progress

that was a joke for Americans who might

remember the Hair Club for Men but um

[Laughter]

yeah

and on that note I never saw her sorry

[Music]

some of these jokes are just for me

so when I do workshops in other

countries you may find this too if you

make it some joke it's a cultural

reference and it's like crickets I was

all right I was telling that there's

there's a Dalai Lama joke which I I

David like and I used to use it's now

workshops all the time and I told her

the other day and there was a you know a

crazy uh silly TV guy who actually told

this joke to the Dalai Lama and the

Dalai Lama of course because of the

language differences didn't really get

it but he did laugh and he was gracious

and I think the guy himself ended up

looking a little bit a little bit

foolish you know for doing it because it

but but it's a great joke and I'll I'll

share it if you don't know it have you

heard it well you have to tell it now

because people are going to be like I

know okay so the Dalai Lama goes to a

hot dog stand oh this one make me one

with everything and so the guy does you

know make me one with everything so he's

you know here he is hands it over and in

the Dalai Lama takes it and and and he's

he's waiting and the guy says what are

you waiting for he says I'm waiting for

my change and the guy says change comes

from within

Tara

some people know the first part but they

don't know the second part you obviously

heard both parts well I I remember

because I actually did a uh one of my

YouTube videos called being one with

everything and I start off with the kind

of guy goes to the hot dog stand to make

me one with lemon yeah yeah so

yeah

on that clap note that note

very effectively in our world but

that provocative energy therapy

anyway well

thank you for this uh opportunity to

share uh intention tapping with uh with

folks and

so that folks can find out more there'll

be links in the information box below

and at tapagrad.com forward slash Steve

and find uh more information about

attention tapping and trainings that you

have coming up and all that good stuff

and

um

yeah

well thank you Brett I really appreciate

the opportunity to you know spread the

word and you know this one thing that

you've been doing for a long time of

course and that's why so many people are

following you because you're always

putting good stuff out to the world for

people to take advantage of it and make

it accessible so I really appreciate

that

um I do want to say the the simple

version of it which is the simple

self-help version anybody can use and

you know part of my mission is to like

yours is to make this accessible to

people

um

there's a simple version and there's you

know there's a more complex version and

our practitioners you know they they

learn a lot about about paying attention

to people and following the energy and

working with energy and stuff like that

and how to Target the intentions but if

the listeners just have a go with I

release all my emotional attachments to

this problem

and just combine that with gently

tapping on the points while you just

notice what comes and then if you notice

there's a disturbance in your body you

know whether it's you know in the head

shoulders neck stomach diaphragm

whatever

just say I restore the right energy flow

to this area or to this feeling and then

just keep tapping and just notice what

happens and usually within a few seconds

or sometimes it can take

a little bit longer but if you just wait

then you'll feel a shift and then that

aspect moves the next next aspect comes

in keep doing the process and you might

save yourself 20 years of therapy I only

have 20 more to do you know

yeah I'll take a good plan

all right my friend it's been great

chatting with you as always yeah thanks

mate appreciate it cheers